I had dinner a few weeks ago with some friends from home while they were visiting New York. They were both extremely excited to be in the city, and mentioned that they would love to move up here…BUT they can’t because of this, this, and this. “You know how it is…”
You can really learn a lot about people by paying close attention to their language. But is such a powerful word, it’s like a signal that says “everything I said before this is not really possible / real / true, here comes the truth.” As I sat there and listened to two people who seemed legitimately excited about living in New York ramble off all the reasons why they couldn’t and never would be able, I couldn’t help to realize they would get exactly what they wished for. Despite wanting to move up here, they were working hard at convincing themselves otherwise.
How often do you experience that free and pure feeling that dreams provide, and that fear driven urge to quickly add the “buts,” to the conversation? We all have dreams, we all have things we’d love to do, but often they can be very scary to pursue. Our dreams don’t care about our financial situation, our skill sets, the expectations of our peers, the expectation of our family, our current living situation…nothing. Your dreams bubble up from the deepest parts of your body, the little kid within you that doesn’t know fear. Buts come from the part of you that has learned mistakes can be painful and safety is worth sacrificing your dreams for. But the question is, are you really safer not pursuing your dreams? Nope. It’s an illusion. I promise, you have nothing to lose, only riches to gain from chasing your dreams.
What are your dreams? Can you talk to someone else about them without adding “buts,” to the discussion? Try something different, talk about what you want without adding why you can’t have it. You might just get what you wish for.
I’m excited to announce today that I’ve been asked and accepted an opportunity to join the Advisory Board of Mind Petals, a thriving community for young entrepreneurs. I first heard about Mind Petals when their founder, David, wrote a little story about me after stumbling across my blog in a google search. I was flattered by the article, and ended up speaking with Dave on the phone for a little while a few days later. I had not yet moved to New York City (where Dave and Mind Petals are based), but we agreed we’d get together following my move and swap stories.
We ended up sitting down for lunch finally a few weeks ago and I immediately was impressed with Dave’s passion for the entrepreneurial spirit and his determination to make Mind Petals a successful community. To my surprise he asked if I would join the Advisory Board to offer occasional guidance, ideas, and introductions to continue the success of Mind Petals as well as republish some of my blog posts on to the site ( I guess I better get more serious about this blog writing stuff).
I think it’s a fantastic connection for both of us. I’m a young entrepreneur with limited experience but just starting to tap into my potential. Mind Petals is a young, but thriving community that sits on the verge exploding in terms of reach and impact on the world’s young entrepreneurial community. I think myself and Mind Petals are typical of the entrepreneurial generation of which I’m a part of. We’re set on creating our own path in a way that’s positive for everyone. I think MP is in the sweet spot of opportunity to embrace the needs of this entrepreneurial generation.
I see a great opportunity to grow and learn together.